Who’s Talking To You?

Knowledge and wisdom are certainly imperative to achieving our goals in this life.  Gaining understanding from our own experience is valuable but hard to accomplish especially in short order.  Reading allows us to learn from others so we can follow the best practices and hopefully avoid many pitfalls along the way.  This can speed our way towards achievements that matter most.

“You don’t know what you don’t know” so searching for insights from mentors and others who have gone before us can add to our own brain trust and give us an advantage in business and other aspects of our lives. Good mentors are important yet very hard to find and when we do meet one that is willing to share their insights these golden nuggets can have a tremendous impact on our rate of success.  But there is something even more important to us than the outside influence and valuable experiences of others.  There is someone we listen to far more often and unfortunately that leads to hearing (and too often implementing) their suggestions in our own walk.

I’m talking here about “You”.  No one talks to “You” more than you do.  Self-talk has a profound influence on our lives.  What we say to ourselves every day can lift us up or pull us down.  There are two voices in our hearts, one that drives us forward and one that holds us back.  The more we listen to one, the weaker the other becomes.  This is not a new concept and has been written about in various ways, but we find ourselves tearing at ourselves far too often.  Encouragement can come from many places but the most important is from you.  If you build yourself up with the right words you’ll tend to have a positive effect on others around you.

Create a habit of seeing the positive aspect of what comes your way.  Keep things in the right perspective when any situation arises.  Every setback is not the end of the world.  Yes, some may be devastating (like a horrible health diagnoses or dire financial failure) but most are not as bad as we can make them seem, especially in our own minds.  I have found that our brain re-lives events every time we repeat them in our minds or verbally so be careful how you dwell on negative happenings.  Is repeating this or that helpful to you or holding you back?

Self-talk is your choice.  You set the tone of the conversation and the quality of the input leading to the eventual outcome in your life.  This is not to be confused with “Pride” (which “Cometh before the fall”) but the reasoning we all do in every situation should have a positive angle whenever possible.  This will enhance your ability to respond in the best way possible.

“Be careful what you say to yourself because someone very important is listening - You” -John Assaraff